Depending on the mood I happen to be in, I am either an occasionally successful entrepreneur who hasn’t gone bust yet, and has helped thousands of others to do the same or better, done a TEDx talk, appeared on the BBC, written best-selling books and saved a couple of lives… or… a total fucking dickhead of a failure (I sometimes have to borrow money to feed my own kids for Christ’s sake… all four of them – shit, I should be on Jeremy Kyle!), I can be selfish to the point of narcissism, I’m loud, obnoxious and just about everyone who’s ever had enough courage to stick around long enough to love me (including my Mum), says I should seriously think before I speak/act/post etc, and can I please clear up the mess on my way out?!

So why the hell should you listen to a knob-end like me?

Simple.

I know something useful.

Not your every day making 6 figures bullshit (although I do know that too, just can’t implement the damn stuff – make a note, sack my systems coach), it’s more of a ‘your life gets a whole lot easier when you know this shit… sometimes’, kinda stuff.

So what is this useful stuff I happen to know?

First up, it was just 6 years ago that I was a barely functioning stressed out part-time alcoholic in therapy and on medication, with OCD, depression and anger issues.

Nowadays, I’m none of the above, although I still have the thinking in those departments, I just prefer to browse, instead of buy.

But hold on, because I still fuck up – constantly and ongoing – I could get a gold medal at the next Olympics for fucking up if they had one – It’s just that now I don’t pay the price for overthinking all of my fuckups to the point of self-detonation or extreme medication.

I don’t get down on myself, for being myself. I don’t suffer for my thoughts. You could say that I’m now just a ‘functioning thought-aholic’.

I get thoughts. A lot of them. Some crazy. And I still get to feel the effects of those thoughts. Depressed thoughts equal depressed feelings. Angry thoughts equal angry feelings. Crazy thoughts equal blog posts and stupidity. That’s how it works. But now I know not to pay too much attention to them (apart from the crazy ones) and I also know there’s more thinking around the corner waiting to pop in for a cup of tea and a chat [quick tip: thoughts are like the in-laws, they only stick around if you feed them!]

Thinking: the system the thoughts come in on, is a bit like the weather. If it’s raining, I choose not to go out and get wet and then complain about it. Instead, I stay put and wait for the storm clouds to pass (although sometimes I forget, go out, get wet and moan about it, until I remember the process and quit moaning).

Same with thoughts. Sometimes we get thought storms – thoughts which are black and stormy and feel a bit shit. But we don’t have to go out and get wet in them.

You may have noticed at the beginning that I said ‘sometimes’. That’s because thoughts and thinking are designed to ‘look real’, so sometimes it really feels like you’re experiencing life itself and not just a self-made representation of life.

This is when we get caught up and can act on something which isn’t actually ‘real’ in the first place.

When thinking looks like life – like it’s coming from the world outside of us and not the incredible energy of thought running through us – we act in the outside world to try and change what is ‘out there’.

We build giant walls, buy crap, start wars and do all manner of diabolical acts to try and dress the shadow, innocently making a basic error of judgement based on a simple misunderstanding.

We create our world on the inside via thought.

Thinking is a representation of the exterior, kind of like an internal hologram. It’s not the actual thing itself, even though it bloody well feels like it.

So when we react to stuff, we’re actually reacting to the holographic representation and not the thing itself and this representation changes depending on the weather system which happens to be present at the time.

If it’s stormy, we feel stormy about it. If it’s sunny, same applies. Our mood determines our experience.

Wow, ain’t that an eye opener?! Our enjoyment or otherwise of life depends on how we feel about it at any given moment and not on the circumstances we happen to be in.

Which explains why you can feel two totally different ways about the same situation at different times. And which also explains why there are trillions spent daily on mood changing and enhancing substances. And this is where I’ve learned something else mind-alteringly useful to share with you:

Even when it’s stormy, we can still ‘enjoy’ life. Sometimes, we get to play in the storms instead of hunkering down.

What do I mean by that?

Sometimes, we get shit thinking or even stuff happening in life which we have shit thinking about (and even good stuff in life we have shit thinking about), but this thinking doesn’t feel so bad if we embrace it and really feel it… so we get to experience all of the shitness and it doesn’t feel so shit after all.

This would be like standing in a storm and realising the true nature and beauty and power of the experience and feeling truly alive by doing so.

This is the real upgrade in life: to be okay with not being okay.

Or as Syd Banks said: “If the only thing people learned was to not be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world”

Now I never got to meet Syd. Perhaps if I had, I wouldn’t swear as much as I do and I’d be chilled out to arctic levels like most of the people I’ve met who knew him.

But I didn’t, so here I am… all sweary and real and in your face trying to fix something which doesn’t need fixing. Yup, that’s you too.

You’re perfect. Even when you fuck up.

Just like me. Your true nature is beyond your thinking, beyond your moods, beyond the clouds and the sun. Your true nature is the infinite essence of who you are and exists before the world we see around us.

That’s what we get back to when we see beyond our personal thinking. You don’t have to take life so seriously. It’s just a thought, after all.

Now that’s really useful to know…

If you want to know more about the Human Operating System and how it is involved in everything in your life, get in touch: damian@rethinkingbusiness.biz

A special thank you to Antti Vanhanen for this blog post and subsequent others who, through his acute observations, gave me permission to be myself and not some made up spiritual guru twat like the one I was in danger of trying to become!

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